What is Bullying?
Bullying is when people repeatedly and intentionally use words or actions against someone or a group of people to cause distress and risk to their well-being.
Read more about what it is, what is considered bullying behaviour and how people are affected by it here- https://www.humanrights.gov.au/what-bullying-violence-harassment-and-bullying-fact-sheet
People who have been or are being bullied feel like victims. Therefore, they often think they have the problem.
Bullying support usually comes in the form of coping skills. However, this isn’t addressing the core issue, changing the victim’s perception of the situation or making them feel better about themselves.
In reality, it is the bully who has the problem, but they won’t be the one looking to change themselves and having therapy sessions.
So, What is the Answer?
The victim’s perception usually changes when they realise that it is the bully who has issues. This is because of the Bullies’ past and how they have learnt to cope in the world. Often, after having changed their perception, the victim will feel sorry for the bully, forgive them and move on.
Outcomes vary depending on each individual case and the type of support or therapy received.
The technique I use is an advanced form of Tapping, and it is very effective.
There are Tips on how to help a Child Overcome Bullying here https://bit.ly/2GdF4T8
A Positive Outcome
I recently worked with a 14-year-old student who was bullied at school. Her Mum messaged me after the session and said, “I’m totally shocked at some of the things the nasty girls have said.” She told me her daughter smiled and said, “I can’t believe how she’s (the bully) sitting in her house wasting all her time sending nasty messages to my friends. I’m glad I haven’t let it bother me anymore and I’m enjoying myself. My friends just laugh at it all.” Her Mum told me, “She’s a changed person. “To be honest, I was surprised by how quickly beliefs can change in someone so young.
Her Testimonial
Di, Thank you so much.
Over the years, my daughter has always put too much pressure on herself to be perfect at everything. As a result, this has affected her schooling. Stressing about NAPLAN for a year before she was due to do it is a great example. Many a time, the teacher has had to pull her aside and explain that she was doing well. My telling her was not enough. Then high school hit and the pressure went up. Anything less than an A was a fail in her eyes. Add teenage girls into the equation and she started having regular breakdowns at home.
After only 1 session with you, she learnt the technique to cope. I was very surprised by how quickly I saw her confidence change and grow. Now, six months on, she has the maturity of facing issues head-on. Bullying at school has been one of them. The tools you gave her have helped her face the fear and realise she holds the power to be happy.
I cannot express how grateful we are to you. Your caring, warm nature put her at ease instantly.
I love your work – I would definitely recommend you to anyone who wants to better themselves. I hope your push to get this practice into schools comes sooner rather than later. Emotional ED for Teachers, Parents and Caregivers is available at www.FasterEFT.com
Nicky